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One bright morning, you were sitting at a
bench at your school. Whistling, staring somewhere your eye-lenses are bringing
you, or maybe, waiting for something to make you stand and walk away for the
next second. Suddenly, she passed.
You’re eyes spark as you stared. She noticed you. You blushed. She smiled. You
smiled back. With that magical feeling that makes you think a pink cloud is
raising your butt from your seat, suddenly, you felt it is LOVE.
You feel like flying when she’s holding your
hand! You feel like heaven when she kisses you! You keep on denying that you
are out of your mind and that she’s the reason why you look insane now that you
are ‘in love’, yet you are proud to say that this girl is driving you crazy!
You can’t get her out of your mind; you keep on wondering what she must be
doing this certain moment. Top of all, she’s the last thing you speak on your
prayers right before the word Amen.
Man, yeah, you are in love… Well that’s what
you want me to say! But I tell you, as long as you build your relationship on
buying roses to her every time she finds out that you’ve lied to her, or giving
her promises and in return, you expect her to satisfy your sexual desires, or
saying I love you to her while
texting I love you more to someone in
your phone, or giving her all you can give to prove her that you love her but
what you really want is for her to say ‘I
love you too’ without waiting too long, that is not love. That is just
infatuation. Or worst, it might just be that confusing quasi-love feeling
called lust.
Individuals
who have their first sexual experience later than average may have more
satisfying romantic relationships in adulthood, according to a new study from
The University of Texas at Austin. This means that people who waited longer, who
picked better in the later age, and who delayed his sexual gratifications, has
a happier life as a married man. Among the participants who were married or
living with a partner, people with later sexual initiation were more likely to
say that they were happy with the way they and their partners handled conflict,
how their partners showed them love and affection, and how they enjoyed doing
day-to-day things with their partners. The association held up even after
taking genetic and environmental factors into account and could not be
explained by differences in adult educational attainment, income, or
religiousness, or by adolescent differences in dating involvement, body mass
index, or attractiveness (http://www.utexas.edu).
True
love is, of course, a feeling, but it is so much more. True love can be faked;
but real true love is
defined by trust, sacrifice, loyalty and patience. Now you might want to know
if ‘SHOULD true love wait?’ Unquestionably!
Being
a teen by the moment, I’ve been experimental. I thought true love comes with
magic. I learned that it doesn’t. I then thought true love comes with giving up
all you got just earn love back. I learned that it doesn’t too. I lastly
thought that true love is earned by choosing a perfect one and trying to love by
following a perfect prospective. But again, I learned that it doesn’t. By
reading, comprehending, and analysing, and purely not by experiencing, I learned
that true love is built on foundation of trust, sacrifice, loyalty, and
patience.
Trust. This is
something that is earned, not learned.
It is THAT something that you earn from a person when you say a simple
promise and you duly fulfils it. It’s the reason why you feel confident when
your partner is working afar, but when she comes back, you know that you were
still her last kiss, her last dream, and last person she spoke ‘I love you’. We
might love people that we don’t wholly trust. Love is easy to give, easy to
show, easy to grow, but not trust. To trust must be the highest form of loving
and to be trusted is for sure the greatest assurance of being loved. It comes
with time, so true love truly waits!
Sacrifice. You can only
love to the level of your sacrifice for sacrifice measures love. How much you
do for someone reflects how much you love. True love is not just a feeling; true love is a sacrifice
that summons a feeling. It is built on giving, not on receiving. You
cannot say that you fell in love because you receive this and that. Love is
maintained on giving. You find true love when you learn to give a part of
yourself, when you learn to give forgiveness, when you learn to give
compassion, all without assuming that you should gain back too. Sacrifice is
the fuel that lets you manifest how you love unselfishly and selflessly.
Loyalty. It is when you say ‘I do’, and you mean that you will ‘til
the end of all time. It’s when you say ‘I’ll never leave you, I’m always here for
you, and I will walk beside you’ and you really mean it. Loyalty is saying I
love you to someone but what you really mean is ‘trust me that you are and you
will be the only one that I’ll love as much as forever allows us’. True love is
loyal.
Patience. If what you really want is to express is true love, you will
be willing to wait. Love shouldn’t be built on experiments. It should not be
forced. True love stands the test of time, a test that only a patient man who’s
truly in love surpasses. True love waits!
These facts are
not new to me. I was told of these a long time ago by people who found true
love. But I didn’t take it seriously. I entered relationships by following too
much heart without mind and sometimes, with too much mind without heart. After
passing few break-ups, there is one thing I learned. TRUE LOVE WAITS. I must not hurry love, for if I will; it is not
love that I’ll find but another nail in the head.
I know in time,
there will be that one person who will find true love with me. And I know in
that time, there will be that magic which gonna make me love with trust,
sacrifice, loyalty, and patience, and that magic is for sure the magic of TRUE LOVE.
